Showing posts with label 2014. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 2014. Show all posts

8.01.2014

Down South

Throughout May and part of June we were traveling down south to Hurricane, Henderson and California almost every weekend. Looking back it was quite expensive for us to be traveling so much, particularly since we had just moved into a new apartment and were trying to adjust to the increased costs associated with that. But it was worth it to spend so much time with family!

Highlights from the trip

1. Birthday nachos as big as Genelle! (April 26th)

2. Discovering Genelle's first two teeth popping through (Memorial Day Weekend)

3. Seeing and holding Ida Jane for the first time (Father's Day Weekend)

4. Genelle really chowing down on food for the first time (May 31st)

5. Genelle's first time in the pool (April 26th)

6. Seeing family (EVERYTIME)


Trips down South

7.30.2014

A Hess Family Reunion

In May all of Mike's siblings, and their families, got together for a little family reunion in Burbank, California --his home town.

Thanks to their family friend, Cynthia Eccles, all of the family from out of town were able to stay in the same condo throughout our stay.

It was so much fun to see everyone and hold/kiss all the new grandkids! We certainly can't wait to see everyone again!

  Highlights from the trip

1. Trying the Apollo breakfast burrito for the first time --loved it!

2. Seeing/kissing/holding Areta for the first time!

3. Seeing/kissing/holding Miles for the first time!

4. Getting a professional massage with all the ladies (also for the first time)

5. Having Jamberry nails applied by Susan (and my hair braided by her too)

6. Experiencing the glorious cooking of SMP Catering (Steve Marshall Productions)

7. Chilling at the pool with Genelle and the rest of the fam!

8. Seeing Marilyn (Genelle's Grandma Hess) in a bathing suit for the first time! (She looked gooood!)


Hess Family Reunion '14

7.28.2014

A Working Mom: "P is for Pumping"

As I described in my last post there were several worries I had in returning to work. One of them was pumping.

You see, when the Affordable Care Act was signed into law in March, 2010 an amendment was made to the Fair Labor Standards Act dictating that:

An employer shall provide—
  1. a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and
  2. a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk.

What a great and essential amendment! However, this piece of good fortune does you no good if you work for a company with fewer than 50 employees. In which case the employer is under no such obligation, if it would cause undo hardship to them.

As I work for a start-up company with a fluctuating employee count. My situation does not give me the right to ask for a quiet place to pump while I am at work.
But it never hurts to ask, so I approached my boss before coming back to the office, about where I might be able to pump, if I would be required to clock-out during the process, and how much time I may be warranted to complete the process.

Unfortunately my boss was more or less at a loss of answers as I was. We didn't have much space so he didn't know where I could pump (although he generously offered to compensate me for the time I take to pump), nor was he aware of the suggested time allotted for pumping. In the end he decided that however long it took me would be acceptable to him, and although there may be some coworkers uncomfortable with me storing the expressed milk in the community fridge that would be acceptable to him. 

After talking with my boss I realized I would need a plan of attack, come my first full day of work. And so I devised a plan to walk over to the most likely of places to have a room I could use and ask to borrow one. Since our offices are right across the street from the city's public library I decided to go there. I knew they had study rooms so I steeled myself to the notion of checking one out on a daily basis, for my pumping needs. I knew those rooms had outlets, and I could easily set aside some time every day to go there, so I convinced myself that would be the best plan of action.

My first day back at the office came and although I knew my strategy was a good one I was nervous, so I waited until I could not stand it any longer then I walked over to the Library. 

Immediately after walking in I noticed the "No Food or Drink Allowed" signs posted all around. I tried to ignore the signs, as I didn't have much choice but to disobey the signs, and proceeded to the Main Librarian's desk. She didn't question my need of a study room, and walked me over to the right room without any hesitation. When I arrived however, I faltered as there were windows, from the ceiling to the floor, just to the left of the door, looking into the study room. How was I supposed to pump in here? Knowing that anyone could look in on me and see that I was disobeying one of the main cardinal rules of the library? No, this room wasn't going to do. I quickly walked back and thanked the librarian for her time and said I wouldn't be needing the study room after all.

By now I was close to tears, knowing that if I didn't find a place to pump I would not have anything to give our sitter for Genelle to eat the following day. So I started back out the library to think. As I was leaving I looked across the building at the Children's section of the library. 

As if a lightbulb had turned on, the thought came to me that of any section of the library, the Children's area would have a high rate of lactating mothers visiting. So I wandered over to the librarian's desk in that department, hopeful that they might have some type of room available for nursing mothers to use.

The librarian on duty was reading quietly to herself when I walked up. After a moment she looked up, and I asked her if the Children's section had any room available to accommodate mothers in need of nursing child. I'm sure she must have been slightly confused at my answer as there was no such child with me, but she answered anyways, dictating that their story-telling room to the right could be used, as well as their space in the back. 

Those statements were exactly what I needed to hear.

With a shaky breath I told her of my situation and asked if there was any way she could help me out.

She said yes.

Since that day I've been going to the library on a regular basis, using whichever room the sweet Children's librarians might have available for me to use. 

It isn't a perfect situation. Multiple times during my pumping session little hands will jingle the doorknobs of the room I'm in, frightening me half to death that they might come bursting in. And every now and then, a busy librarian, or oblivious volunteer walk in on me. But more often than not I'm blessed with a room to call my own for 15-20 minutes where I'm at peace to express the milk that my sweet baby girl needs. 

7.27.2014

A Working Mom

As some of you may be aware, on January 6th, 2014 I returned back to work full-time. Genelle was not quite 3 months old, but my 12 weeks of maternity leave were up and our family needed the funds and so back into the office I went.

The choice to return to work was both a difficult and an easy one.

Difficult, because, as you can imagine, I knew I would miss being with my new baby girl all day. There were a lot of worries on my mind with my return to work including:
-missing out on milestones
-not being able to comfort her when she's sad, hurt or hungry
-her not getting the care or attention I think she deserves
-her not eating enough, getting changed often enough, or being intellectually stimulated
-who would watch her
-would I be able to concentrate at work (because of how exhausted I might be, or how emotionally wrought I might be)
-where could I pump
-would I pump enough milk
-would I need to work extra to make up for time taken to pump
-will I be able to get enough hours in

Easy because:
-I had missed the grown-up non-baby central conversations I had had before Genelle was born
-I had missed being challenged intellectually
-I needed some time away from the house (which I had felt stuck in for the past 3 months)
-I knew our family would not survive financially without the extra funds
-and I needed a break from all the responsibilities of being a mom.

Honestly most of the worries I had when I first went back to work still plague me even after being "back in the saddle" for the past 6 months. However, as I just shared, there is no doubt in my mind that I need to be at work. Because without that extra paycheck our family would be dependent upon the government, and others, for the basic necessities, and I cannot bring myself to let my baby girl's needs/wants be determined by anyone else but me.

My short experience so far has embedded in me a deep sense of gratitude, not only for all the mothers in my life, but all the mothers who have had to deal with less than perfect circumstances (like divorce, or the need for two working parents) because I understand a little bit more now the sacrifice that one must make for the good of your family.

So thank you Moms for all you do! You are wonderful just the way you are, and although you may not always get the thanks you deserve, know that your sacrifices are noticed and you are loved and treasured.

5.09.2014

A Mini Vacation with Friends

Towards the end of Genelle's sixth month we decided to go on a little vacation to the Oregon Coast. It was beautiful and so much fun!! The water was too cold to put Genelle in, but she had a ball hanging out with our friends over at My Life of Checked Boxes!

Highlights from the trip

1. Waking up to see/hear/smell the Ocean EVERY MORNING!!

2. Seeing all the green and brown loveliness that is Oregon

3. Getting to see and touch Sea Stars and Anemone during low tide

4. Eating Seafood!! (Even Mike tried some oyster, crab and fish!)

5. Relaxing for a whole week and playing games with some of my bestest friends!!!

6. Tillamook Cheese Factory and the Blue Heron with it's petting zoo

7. Visiting Portland (specifically, VooDoo Donuts, Powell's Book Store, the Washington Park and some Food Carts just down the street from Washington Park)

8. Breakfast on the Smelt Sands Beach in Yachats

9. Newport!


Oregon Coast Trip

5.01.2014

The Fourth and Fifth Months (and a baby blessing)

Big Things in the Fourth and Fifth Months

1. Mama makes a ring sling and Genelle abides sitting in it

2. Genelle starts to show a greater preference for Mama (aka if Mom leaves the room or allows anyone else to hold Genelle there WILL be tears)

3. Recognizing and bringing toys up to her face

4. Mama actually remembered to take photos of Genelle's bathtime (I promise she was bathed before this point)

5. Big laughs for Daddy (not quite yet for Mom)

6. Paying attention to the pages of her book and showing a greater interest in face cavities

7. Grabbing toes!!


Genelle's Fourth and Fifth Months


Genelle's Baby Blessing 
On February 16th Genelle's Dad, Grandpas Hebdon, Hess and Wright, along with Uncles Matt and Braeden, Mike's old Mission President: President Hunt, and her Great Grandpas Hebdon and Christensen, together gave her a blessing.

The following slide show is the luncheon that followed the blessing.
Genelle's Baby Blessing